The Gemara brings down an argument between Rabbi Meir and Rabbi Yehuda regarding a plant that grows between an elevated field and a lower field. Rabbi Meir says the plant belongs to the elevated field owner because if that owner removes his dirt there would be no plant. Rabbi Yehudah argues and says it belongs to the owner of the lower field because if that owner would fill up his land with dirt there would be no plant.
This argument can be a message to all of us with regards to raising children. Rabbi Meir points out that without the dirt which provides the nourishment and base for the plant it will not grow. Rabbi Yehudah says that without leaving space for the plant to breath and receive sunshine it will not grow. The truth is, as parents, we need to both provide the base and the nourishment for the growth of our children as well as leaving room for our children to stretch and grow on their own and receive their own sunshine.